Don’t mix up acting ‘nice’ with being a person that is genuinely good.

Don’t mix up acting ‘nice’ with being a person that is genuinely good.

5. Kindness and dealing with individuals well are valuable, but politeness may be violent if it masks oppression that is normalized. Naming oppression, even though done carefully, isn’t constantly regarded as being ‘nice’ because it pushes back at status quo methods of relating, seeing, and thinking.

Whenever naming oppression occurs as a reply to naturalized damage, the anger you’re hearing is an answer to real harm you were being ‘nice. You will probably have enacted while thinking’ therefore before you select you don’t need certainly to pay attention because some one is breaking politeness protocols, consider whose passions those protocols protect. Don’t mix up your interior defensiveness, which could arise at getting your real privilege revealed, utilizing the message that is external are getting. Can there be trust to be had to you behind anger or critique – trust that you’re the sort of one who is ready to accept development and alter? Continue reading «Don’t mix up acting ‘nice’ with being a person that is genuinely good.»